A Warm Welcome to all of our new subscribers!
This was a busy week: I participated in two podcast interviews and shot two new videos for my new YouTube channel, Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse. We just hit 1000 subscribers there and a wonderful community is growing. If you haven’t already, I hope you’ll check this new resource out.
One of my main goals in writing my book and starting this blog (and now my YouTube channel) was to educate Adult Survivors of dysfunctional and narcissistic family systems and Mental Health professionals on the following:
- Why family scapegoating behaviors qualify as psycho-emotional abuse in highly dysfunctional and narcissistic families.
- Sharing my years of clinical and academic qualitative research findings on what I eventually named ‘family scapegoating abuse’ (FSA).
- How the systemic, unconscious defense mechanism known as the Family Projective Identification Process can fuel family scapegoating abuse, including in family systems that are dysfunctional but not narcissistic.
- Why family scapegoating abuse victims should be assessed for complex trauma (C-PTSD).
- Understanding the inter-play between family scapegoating abuse; the family projective identification process; intergenerational trauma; toxic shame; betrayal trauma; and complex trauma (C-PTSD).
It’s been rewarding to see the interest in my work on family scapegoating abuse (FSA) growing steadily since I published my book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, over two years ago. There can understandably be resistance on some people’s part in regard to accepting the fact that some processes related to FSA can be unconscious; however, it has been my experience that this is a critical piece of information for adult survivors of FSA who grew up in a dysfunctional, versus narcissistic, family system, as it validates the reality of their having been harmed by this form of insidious ‘invisible’ abuse.
Below are links to one of my recent podcast interviews (the second will be released and posted early next year) and my two latest videos.
Trigger Warning: The podcast host, Andrea Ashley, uses some ‘salty’ language at times during the introductory part of her broadcast. The topics we discuss related to family scapegoating abuse and dysfunctional / narcissistic families may be psycho-emotionally activating or triggering for some.
Andrea Ashley interviewing Rebecca C. Mandeville on her Adult Child Podcast
Latest YouTube Videos from Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse (click on videos to play)
Hi Rebecca
It was a discussion on narcissism. They didn’t say much about FSA but mentioned the family empath often becomes the magnet for FSA.
Regards
Moira Eastman PhD
Nice to know people are slowly adopting the term – Thanks again, Moira.
Hi Rebecca,
I saw a mention of FSA on an interview on narcissism. Try Taylor Marshall and David Nix on narcissism.
Best wishes.
Moira Eastman
Thanks, Moira. I did a search but not sure which podcast FSA is mentioned in. If you come across a link, feel free to post it here.
Thanks so much for your commitment to this issue and the survivors. I laughed about the tricycle escape, because I did the same thing as maybe a 3-4 yr old. Just jumped on the trike and was missing in action for some time. I even crossed some streets. It caused some trouble I heard about for many years after.
The more I embrace and dig into this issue and listen to these videos and this podcast, the more validated I become and not as mean to myself. Carrying trauma from many different sources is very exhausting! I’m finding that separating from the story that was created for me by scapegoating family members is a slower process that what I’d wish for, but it’s okay.
Having a name for this is so important to me because I can embrace something tangible to define my alternate-universe life experience. Recently, I learned about some dental issues I have, that I’ve known about for years and have caused me different problems, but I didn’t have a name for the “root” of the problem. Now knowing I likely had physical trauma at a young age that caused this is something I have to wrap my head around as well. I’ll add it to the list.
You’re most welcome, and what a perfect analogy you have given to describe these niggling, deep-rooted pains we carry but are not even aware of at times, or when aware, find ourselves struggling to address it. Glad you enjoyed the podcast. Andrea will have me on again in January ’23 to do a Q & A podcast with her subscribers. Should be fun!